OH NO YOU DIDNIT JUST SAY THAT

Ella has been having trouble in swim and gym with not listening and following directions. Also the gym and swim teachers do not really enforce that with her. The classroom teachers do. So today I went into swim to watch and on Thursday Luke is going to go to gym. Well of course the swim teacher spent more time with Ella because I was there and did ask her to tow the line more. Well more than once I went and told Ella that she needed to be listening and paying attention. At the end of swim Ella was able to get a noddle. I wanted her to show the teacher how she does a back float with just a noddle and not a person. She fought me on it at first and did not listen and the teacher stepped in and asked her to do it. She told her no and swam away. The teacher then turns around and tells the aide that she has spent all of her time with Ella and the other two did not get what then needed. That is not what I am asking for how ever I find in hard to believe that Ella is the first child to have a fear of the water and listening issues at the school. So I would think they would have to have dealt with this before and have and idea of how to handle it and discuss it with me. Then the teacher turns to me and says I have told her to get out of the water and sit. However she was not going after her to get her. So I tell Ella to get out of the water. Ella then starts crying and carrying on. So the teacher then turns to me and tells me that she never has had this problem with her when I am not there. So at this point I am not able to control what I am going to say. So I tell Ella that I have to leave and I go out to the hallway.

I wait out there because I want to talk to Ella. I want to tell her that we can talk about this later and that she should go back to class and have a good snack and rest of the day and enjoy herself. The teacher comes out and tells me that she is sorry for upsetting me, but that I am pregnant and probably very emotional. That's right. I was appalled. When I told Luke this he just said "Oh no". Knowing that I would have probably decked her. Rather that is right or wrong you do not say that to a parent. Then she precedes to tell me again that Ella loves swim, her, and that she does not have any problems with her. Ella does not love swim every swim day I have to fight tooth and nail to get her ready and go to school. She then tells me to just forget about this half hour and she will take care of it, I have the whole day to deal with and can just relax about this half hour. She has two PHD's and an MBA and she can handle it. I really don't care what education you have it gives you no credit with kids. I have a masters in education and can not handle Ella. I can not just forget about a half hour of her day when I now that she is not have a good time and not behaving. That is part of being a parent. Then I explain to her that some of the behavior issues are coming about due to the pregnancy and she butts in to tell me that her children are 5 years apart and they had no trouble adjusting and thinks that Ella is not having any problems in this area. Seriously you only spend 1 hour a week with her I really do not think you know her very well. If you did you would know that she is a child who needs structure and can not be given leniency. She then goes on to tell me that it sounds like my husband and her are sending mixed messages to Ella and we should just leave the swimming to her and not worry about it. I have never felt so insulted. I would love to take Ella out of swim lessons at school and have her do them privately and she can sit during swim. However it is way to expensive, and I do not want to cause problems for the other children and Ella wondering why Ella gets to sit. Hopefully Luke's visit will go better on Thursday. So needless to say the swim teacher and I will not be getting coffee together anytime soon.